Notes For Living Your Best Life

The Need for Even Exchange OR Free Yourself From Debt

2012-03-10T12:19:00.001-08:00

When all is in balance and we are each effectively managing our own God-given energy, we are able to productively put that energy to use to manifest everything that we need.

Unfortunately, this system is severely out of balance in our present world and societies. Our country has been built on DEBT. Are you beginning to see this ineffective system crumble?

Lots of us were taught that we should give without expecting anything in return.
But how many negative emotions are truly caused when, in fact, no return is given?
People who give without expecting returns are, at the very least, seeking outside validation or acknowledgment to soothe their own illusions of low self-worth.

Some of us believe that because of our loving intentions, we should be able to receive without exchange and so we choose to float from place to place expecting individuals (like those givers above) to provide all of our needs. People who live this way are actually giving away their energy in the form of indebtedness and affirming and ensuring their own continued lack and disempowerment.

A deficit is always created by the imbalance of giving without receiving and usually it is an emotional and energetic deficit in the giver as well as a loss of personal energy and power in the recipient.

The problem with both scenarios above is that they fail to invoke the principle of equal exchange. Newton's third law of motion is stated in Latin as "actio et reactio". Most of us have heard this translated as "For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction." When this law is not adhered to, a byproduct and a deficit are created. We become co-dependent or disempowered or both.

The principle of equal exchange is important in order to maintain energetic flow in our lives and on this planet. Debt has many of us confused. Many of us believe that we are not entitled to receive. We hesitate to recognize our own value or to express that we desire reciprocation from our givings. Many of us were even taught that "it is better to give than to receive". But if we look to natural laws for our cues, we will find that when any vacuum is created, what rushes in to naturally fill that vacuum is of equal volume. In order to progress, each of us must realize:

1. Our own value
2. Our right to receive
3. The need for reciprocity in all situations
4. The need to exchange for information, services, and hospitality if we want to fully enjoy the benefits of what is given to us
5. The negative impact of debt of any kind

If you are a professional and you are asked to render your services for free or "pro bono", then this law is not being honored. If you agree to offer services for free or at a reduced rate, then
1. you are not honoring the value of your services and
2. your non-paying potential "client" is not acknowledging that he or she deserves to receive something of value.

It is likely that the result of this transaction will be unacceptable to you both. Has anyone found that the clients to whom you extend "friend's prices" cause the largest drain on your time, energy and other resources yet seem still unhappy with whatever they receive? Have you found that you received a service or product for less than it was worth only to find that your ability to use or enjoy it for an appropriate length of time was diminished?

Money is like time. We have enough of it for the things that are most important to us.

Here is a Repost of Inelia Benz's prolific and brilliantly written article at Ascension 101:

Debt - A Link in the Chain of Enslavement

With dual realities, or dimensions, in other words, any dimension that has a sense of existence as "I" that is separate from the environment or other "I"s, there is a very strict law of Energy Exchange.

This energy exchange is basically that when someone gives something that is part of themselves, such as time, a service, product or space, to someone else, the other person has to return the energy in the form which is useful to the first person in an equal amount of what was originally given.

So what happens if this energy exchange does not take place?

DEBT happens. Karmic debt is a chain that links two people in a negative, "otherness" configuration.

The financial system, as it is designed presently, is debt ridden. This energetically enslaves people to the financial institution they are indebted to.

When a "lightworker" decides that he or she will dedicate his or her life to the good of humanity, giving all of their time, energy, willingness and space for free, "knowing" that the universe will respond in like kind and supply them with groceries, a place to live in, clothes and anything else they need and want, what he or she is doing is simply creating a web of debt that enslaves everyone they help as well as themselves in a negative configuration.

There are some individuals who get a lot of satisfaction and fulfillment helping other individuals without asking for anything in return. This often creates co-dependent relationships (Karmic chains), between the two individuals.

Energy exchange doesn't necessarily have to be money. But it absolutely must be something each person needs. So, for example, if a psychic gets offered a reiki session as exchange for a psychic reading, but he doesn't need a reiki session, or it simply vibrates wrong for him but accepts it anyway, the debt is still created.

So, what can you give for free that doesn't create debt? INFORMATION. Information came in to you from elsewhere, it is public domain in a universal kind of way, it belongs to no one. So you can give it away for free if you so please or charge for it if it takes money and effort to get it published or placed in a public place. Once you start using your time, skills, energy or space to assist another person, for that other person's personal benefit, it is imperative that you charge them money or a product or service that you NEED.

If you are involved in a charity that helps society in some way, this does not create debt. The reason is that you too are part of that society, so any improvement to it, also benefits you directly.

It used to be that the tribe would take care of the tribe healer/shaman/educator, she/he would wake up to food, clothes and clean living quarters. The patriarchal system has done away with that cultural energy exchange, often making their work illegal. By no longer having this method of energy exchange toward our spiritual teachers, we are left with barter or monetary payment as ways of keeping karmic relationships clean.

If you feel triggered by the thought of paying for your personal spiritual growth, you are probably being affected by the patriarchal "bow of poverty". A system which was enacted a while back to create co-dependency between certain religious organizations or individuals and their "followers".

The new paradigm no longer has "followers". Only audiences. A member of an audience is, and must remain, FREE to leave whenever he or she wants.

How do you undo the debt, both monetary and energetic, that you are in right now? You pay it to the institution or person to whom you are indebted to. You can also process a "clean slate", where any attachment to debt is released.

How do you stop creating a chain of debt? You always ask for an energy exchange when providing services or products, and you always give payment to the person you take services or products from. If they don't want to accept payment, then go elsewhere.

If you are having money problems, or are triggered by "having to pay" for "what should be free", do this exercise:

Reconnecting with Money Exercise

How To Be Your Best Online Self:

2012-02-28T11:12:00.005-08:00

Tips for Creating Your Best Online Profiles and Content
by Shaun Blair, Holistic Life Coach

These days most of us have profiles on social and business networking sites like LinkedIn and Facebook. You may even have a YouTube channel or your own website. But do you ever wonder whether your profile is representing you well? Here are a few tips to help you get the most out of your online identity.

1. Think about what you want from your online profile.
Are you hoping that someone who finds your online profile will offer you a better job? Do you want more clients at the job you have? Do you simply want to connect with other people in your industry? Your profile should reflect your reasons for being on the networking site. If you want a better job then be sure to highlight how awesome you are in your field. List your most impressive achievements that are relevant to the type of job you want. If you want more clients, then list some successes with your past and current clients. Use dollar amounts or other measured guideposts. You don't have to name names unless your clients are okay with that but do mention briefly what you were able to accomplish with them.

2. Spel Check and appropriate capitaliZation
Nothing says "I lack Attention to detial" quite like misspelling words in your own profile. This is especially important if you are an entrepreneur. Capitalize where appropriate, including Job Titles and Names of Projects that you have worked on. And for goodness sake, people, make sure each word in the name of your company is capitalized, especially if you are the owner. That is, unless you're going for the ubercool "i type in all lowercase because i'm humble in a trendy kind of way" thing.

3. What are you saying about yourself?
LinkedIn currently lists your present position from your "Experience" section along with your name and a thumbnail picture in the shortlist that people view as they browse. What do you have as your current position in your LinkedIn profile? This is not necessarily the same as your "Professional Headline" that shows up on your whole profile page. Let's say you're currently "Head Pizza Delivery Driver" but you have a nonprofit business startup that will provide healthy food options to underprivileged children. List your endeavor "Owner at Feed Us All (A Not For Profit Startup)" as your current position with placement above "Head Pizza..." so that when people are scrolling through, they can see what you're really about. After all, do you want more people to deliver pizza to or more people who are aware of your cause? Remember that the people reading your profile could support you with networking contacts and financing if they are aware of your intentions.

4. How is your picture?
If you don't have one at all, that is a cardinal sin. Most pictures are better than none at all unless you're already famous. However, the best profile picture for business networking is an executive headshot. No, the pic of you out drinking with your frat buddies cropped in close to cut out your yard of beer is not ideal. Think of a school picture but with enough time to use the little plastic comb first. Add in a nice suit or industry-appropriate attire and now you have an attractive, eye-catching profile picture. No one has to know that you took it with your iPhone in front of your one plain wall wearing your suit jacket on top & boxer briefs on the bottom.

5. Have you taken a moment to view your profile as others see it?
Taking a look at how the world sees your online profile is an important final step. In addition to browsing for typos and spelling corrections, consider to what and to whom you are linking. Do your web links support your mindset and intentions? Does your additional experience apply to your current objectives? Think of your target audience. If you want a company to take you seriously then don't link to your personal facebook page with public pictures of you holding a "hand-rolled cigarette". I'm all for personal expression but if you are hoping to score a teaching position at an Elementary School then perhaps 10 of your primary connections should not be from your weekend burlesque troupe in all their nipple-tasselled performance attire. For that matter, please be aware that facebook allows you to SELECT which photo albums are visible to whom. Review what you're sharing and make sure it represents what you want to display.

6. Video Content
Video content is increasingly used in online profiles or as part of an individual's online presence. Is your video content representative of the work that you do or want to do more of? Does it indicate to a potential client or employer that they can trust you or identify with you? Does it give a sample of your work or document your successes? If your videos accomplish none of these things, then why are they online? Sure, vids of you hanging out with your puppy are adorable but do they convince someone to hire you as a consultant? Just think about what you're posting and make sure it is a good representation of the message you really want to send to the world. Videos are a great way to show someone why they should do business with you. But be careful because videos can also show people why they shouldn't.

I hope you can put these tips to good use to present your best self online. Do you have any comments? Anything to add? Feedback is welcome. I'm wishing you lots of success, both online and off!

~Shaun

Practicing PATIENCE keeps me in the flow of my highest good.

2012-01-31T09:42:00.000-08:00

One day I drove to the fashion district of Los Angeles to pick up some specific items. My goal was to get there and then get back to the west side before later in the afternoon when traffic would be heavy. As I got to the main street that goes through the middle of the district, I found myself behind an SUV moving at a ridiculously slow speed. Seriously, he was driving under 10 miles per hour, braking very frequently and irregularly as he spoke loudly on his mobile phone while looking out his windows. Over and over, he kept slowing down and almost pulling over before continuing straight. Aaaaargh!! With all disregard to traffic behind him, he was trying (and repeatedly failing) to find his destination. I became increasingly irritated after driving behind him for a few blocks.

What would you do?

I did what many of us would have done and sped around him with a funky look on my face and drove up to my destination about two blocks ahead. When I arrived there, the gate to the parking lot for the store was closed. It was around 11am and I knew that the gate should be open because the store was open. Cars were parked inside the gate in the lot. Frustrated, I hurriedly pulled back onto the street and drove down another block. I paid to park in a public lot and power-walked the block back to the store. As I arrived at the entrance to the store, I saw the parking attendant opening the gate and overheard him explaining to a customer who had been waiting to retrieve her car from inside the gate that he had been in the restroom.

So, folks, you can already guess the moral of this story, right?

Had I simply been patient behind the man in the vehicle in front of me and made my way to the store a few minutes later than I did, the parking lot gate would have been open. I would have saved myself
1. the money I paid for parking,
2. the walk back to the store,
3. the walk from the store back to my car with my bags after shopping,
4. the stress generated in my body from becoming agitated.

Some might even propose that the man on his phone driving in such an absurd manner could have been specifically placed in my day by The Universe to put me exactly where I needed to be. But, in my "infinite wisdom" and ego-furied rush ["Who the hell does this guy think he is? How inconsiderate!!! Doesn't he know I'm driving behind him?!?"], I decided that I would forego all patience and create my own resolve to the situation.

Patience is a tool that allows me to be fully present in each moment.
When I am present, I am most effective in setting, manifesting and allowing intentions toward my highest good.

Can I find opportunities to be patient today? Can you find opportunities to be patient today?
Can we use those moments to be fully present and open to our highest good?

Affirming All Possibilities for Your Infinite Joy and Abundance,
~Shaun

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JOY is intention enough. OR Manifestation 101

2012-01-25T15:04:00.000-08:00

This is about my decision to be limitless. I am sharing in the hope that my words and experience will inspire you to allow more possibilities for manifesting joy in Your life.

Many of us subscribe to the practice of goal-setting. While I believe that goal-setting is helpful, I have found that in some instances, it can foster limitation. When I have been very specific about what I want to achieve, I have achieved just that. Exactly as ordered. Nothing more, nothing less. In several cases, I realized after manifestation that I could have imagined it a little (or a LOT) better. Has that ever happened to you? (The old quote comes to mind, "Be careful what you wish for. You just may get it.")

In contrast, when I have held a more broad intention, focusing only on the JOY I would experience with manifestation of my desired situation or object, results have been phenomenal and far greater than expected. In the past 8 months, I have received a strong message to allow more freedom in that which I wish to manifest. I have learned through exciting experiences that I can simply focus on the feeling of the environment or situation that I desire without deciding (limiting) the wheres, whens, whos, or hows. When the intention does manifest, it proves to be far more satisfactory than I could have dreamed. There have been perks and benefits that I hadn't even realized I would enjoy or need until I had them.

In hindsight, I see that The Universe has been trying to teach me this lesson for many years. The most memorable time when I experienced this lesson that "Joy is Intention Enough" was many years ago but I am only now understanding.

Upon completing college in North Carolina, I set my intention to move from my small hometown to Washington, D.C. to live and work. I made several trips to D.C., visiting friends and learning my way around. While I enjoyed my visits, I was not successful in locating housing or employment there. I returned to Greensboro, North Carolina and settled into my new life with the only job and housing I could find at the time. I worked as the Manager of a 24-hour Convenience Store. My income afforded me a small rent-controlled studio in a sketchy neighborhood and I worked about 16 hours per day, 7 days per week, all hours. Needless to say, I was not having the post-college experience of my dreams.

I knew that usually when I set an intention, it manifested. So while I was disappointed about having failed to realize my big city dreams in D.C., I continued to imagine myself going about my life in a big city. I daydreamed about wearing business suits, enjoying the brisk air and the hustle-bustle. I imagined dining out with friends at hip restaurants, going to swanky parties and shopping at chic boutiques. While I was not in my ideal job or living situation at the time, I stayed in a state of gratitude for having found a job that was challenging and showed me what I was made of. After a few weeks of just focusing on what it would feel like to live and work in a big city, I received a very unexpected call from a friend.

My married friends Marvin and Tracey had recently moved from her hometown in North Carolina to his hometown in New York. I don't know what prompted Marvin to think of me but I had worked for him on several different projects before graduating. He called one day and said, "You know Shauney, Tracey and I just moved up here and I think you could do this. This is all you up here. You should come check it out." Wow. The call and Marvin's words caught me completely off guard. In my wildest dreams, I had never allowed myself to imagine moving to.. THE city. Marv put me in contact with Malissa, the Human Resources Director at the company he was working for. Malissa was from a from a small town too and she helped me set up interviews with companies and agencies in New York.

TWO WEEKS later, I was living and working in Manhattan. My big city dreams were realized and exceeded. I now know that it was the intention and feeling that allowed the situation to manifest. Had I stayed set in my mind with the static goal of moving to Washington, D.C., I probably could have eventually forced it to work. But after seeing how it all worked out, I know that being in D.C. was not right for me and I would not have been nearly as joyful, comfortable, or had the incredibly amazing and positively life-changing experience that I had as the result of moving to Manhattan at the age of 24.

Twelve years later, I am finally deciphering and truly receiving this repeating message in my life. Over the past several months, I have had small lessons in the simple manifestation of joy but I am expanding now to allow JOY to be THE intention for my life in all aspects. I choose now to allow all options to be available to me simply by not selecting any one option upon which to focus. To me, the word "JOY" encompasses the feelings of peace, love, abundance, satisfaction and freedom that accompany a wonderful life. Joy is like a seed. I am planting this seed called Joy in the ether of consciousness and nurturing it by feeling joy in my present existence. I know that my seed will grow into a beautiful, flourishing and mighty tree with branches of amazingness in all areas of my life.

I'll let you know how it goes. My hope is that I may inspire you to also create from a place of unlimited opportunity instead of only choosing from the few things you may truly believe that you deserve.

Just as there is an abundance of air to breathe and an immeasurable amount of energy to utilize and manage, so are the possibilities for my life. I am open to whichever of those meet the highest good of my Self and all those involved. I believe that the same is true for you. I hope that you believe it too.

I Am Affirming All Possibilities for Your Joy and Abundance,

~Shaun

Release!

2012-01-25T14:41:00.000-08:00

(archived from Sunday August 23, 2009)

What are you holding on to?

WHO are you holding on to?

Why?

Are you holding on out of a sense of obligation? guilt? fear?

I, right now, choose to continue to release that which no longer serves me. As you know, I set an intention to do this quite a while ago and I must say that I have found much success in the accomplishment. But as I move forward, I realize that this is not a "garage sale" type of event, but rather a quarterly trip to my local Goodwill Donation Center.

Yes, this releasing is a process. A cycle. Hmmm.... who knew? I have accumulated 34 years of stuff. And at some point or another, all of it served me. If it did not, I never would have acquired it. And as my stuff contributed to my perceived joy or pain or anything in between, I have benefited from it all. But as I evolve, so do my needs. And I no longer have space for that two drawer vertical file cabinet. Or any use for that (once awesomely new) computer with only 60Gb of hard disk space. Or any desire to consort with those stubborn acquaintances who create four-hour emergencies when they know I have appointments scheduled...

And so...

I release all of these and more.

And it feels soooo good.

I choose to continue to create and allow space for wonderful new gifts and relationships and yes,

new, better *stuff* that serves me as I am in this moment.

In fullness, in bliss, and swimming in gratitude.

As always, with lots of love to you all,

~Shaun

A note about control and timeliness...

2012-01-25T14:35:00.000-08:00

(archived from September 16, 2009)

For most of my life, I had jobs and schedules that required me to be on time. Other people depended on me and if I was late, I would face being fired and/or my employers and clients would lose lots of money. I would lose everything I had worked for including my reputation, sustenance and material possessions.

My daily schedule with my most recent salaried position was:

6:30-7:00am Wake up & rush through meditation
7:00-7:30am Get ready to go
7:30-8:00am Leave for work
8:00am-6:45pm

Sit down at my desk, update my voice mail greeting, listen to messages
Return phone calls and e-mails and faxes about current business.
Call and receive calls to/from potential new customers
Follow up with existing customers
Mail out documents to new and existing customers
Process documents and information received from or regarding customers
Eat lunch and/or snacks at my desk throughout the day. (Occasionally, I would leave the office for a lunch break just to step away from it all. Since I brought my lunch, I would sit in my car and eat or run an errand while eating.)

6:45pm-7:30pm Rush to finish work to go exercise
7:30pm-9:00pm Yoga class
9:20pm-10:00pm Arrive home, shower and put out clothes for the next day
10:00pm-11:00pm Make my lunch for the next day then make a list of everything to follow up on the next day while eating dinner
11:00pm Fall asleep

When my place of employment closed in September of 2007, I had done everything right. I had been on time, I had worked hard. But I still had lost everything I had been miserably working and rushing for years to maintain.

I suddenly had more free time. But I still felt rushed and as if there was not enough time in my day. I began volunteering and working a part-time job but my life still felt very stressful and hurried. I decided that I needed to de-stress my life. So I began to look at all the things that were stressing me out. I realized that I would find myself rushing to fit things into my schedule. I was stressed out if I hit bad traffic on the way to my volunteer position. I was stressed out if I didn’t wake up early enough to go the Farmer’s Market by the time they opened at 7:30 so I would have time to come home and have breakfast and make my lunch before going to my part-time job as a contract employee (My boss and I only get paid from my work on a commission basis). I am not paid if I am not there, but I am also not an hourly or salaried employee. This means that my boss and I are both happy to see me at work. I had several months of stressful mornings of rushing to get everything done in time to go to work. Several times I arrived before the building was even open and had to wait after cutting my breakfast or sleep time short to arrive so early. I would get inside, get ready for work and wait, hoping a client would show up for me. All that stress, all that rushing, just to wait.

One morning, I overslept. I woke up about an hour later than usual. I felt major stress as soon as I realized how late it was and I started to skip my morning rituals and just rush to work. Then, I heard a voice saying, "STOP... breathe..."
I started to rush again and then I actually wondered what would happen if I just accepted the lateness and took my time. I called work to say I would be 15 minutes late and then took my time getting ready to go. As I arrived to work only 7 minutes late, my client was just exiting his car and lingered in the parking lot as I went to the door. I had missed nothing.
From that day, I realized that whatever is meant for me is what I will get. I realized that in my life, it is now more important for me to enjoy my journey, to do the things that make me feel good, like getting 15 extra minutes of rest, or taking my time for a leisurely meditation or a pre-work walk on the beach than to rush to be somewhere. I realized that all the things I allowed to stress me out had very small (if any) consequences if they did not go as I so stressfully planned and coordinated them.

In the weeks that followed, I still planned my mornings so that I was likely to be on time to work but I also did not stress if something did not go as planned or if I did not leave as early as I had expected. I had a whole series of events where, after a leisurely morning and arriving (usually) before or (occasionally) after my designated arrival time, clients would come in just before me. When I was always rushing to work, that never happened. I was always rushing to hurry up and wait. I realized that I was so busy trying to control and plan everything that I was actually only getting in the way of what The Universe was trying to give to me.

I made little experiments of noticing when unexpected delays made me uneasy and then allowing them, moving out of the way. I realized that when I went with the flow of whatever came my way, wonderful surprises and blissful harmony filled my day. I also noticed that whenever I slipped back into the habits that served me for the last 15 years of rushing to plan and to do everything exactly as I thought I should, not only was I seriously stressed out, but lots more went wrong during my day! I realized that as soon as I began to feel rushed, I would get flustered and make silly mistakes that made me even more late, like missing a parking space or taking the wrong exit on the highway. I realized that as long as I accepted whatever happened and tried to relax into the flow, everything became magical and I still usually arrived by my planned time but even when I was late, I arrived in the perfect time for whatever The Universe had for me on that day.

Now, when I realize that I am feeling stressed about doing something or not doing something or getting somewhere or leaving somewhere at a certain time, I obey the voice. I stop. I breathe. pause to ask myself, “what will happen if I fail to do this?” or “what will happen if I arrive late?”. And if no one is scheduled to die and I will not lose money and no one will be hurt or injured if I fail, then I give myself (and The Universe) the space to create whatever will suit my greater good and the greater good of everyone connected to me in that moment.

Since making that decision, I have found much more inner peace and joy in my daily life. If I seem to be running late, I just relax and ask myself, “what is the worst thing that could happen if I am five minutes late?” If the answer comes back without anyone getting injured or dying or me losing any money or friends, I allow the space for The Universe to co-create the perfect outcome for me. And I usually arrive on time anyway but even when I don’t, that peace inside feels much better than always being on time but feeling like a constant ball of stress and missing all the little joys along the way. Whenever I hear that little whisper now, even if I am just enjoying a walk on the beach, I slow down, I sometimes even stop right where I am and take in the moment and offer gratitude for realizing that there is more than enough time for me to receive everything The Universe has to give me.

~Shaun

Not taking it personally

2012-01-25T14:14:00.000-08:00

(archived from November 24, 2009)
It takes a lot of strength to stop taking things personally.

To realize that every time someone responds or engages you
in a way that makes you feel small,
they did so because they feel small,
because they are hurting somewhere inside.

We tend to attract people to be close to us whose insecurities feed our own.

No, we do not attract these people because we are emotional masochists
who want to see just how much abuse we can take.

We attract these people who challenge us because WE
~ in our infinite and highest intelligence ~
know how to create opportunities for our own growth and healing.

So...
Take a deep breath into your root chakra.
Feel your strength rise as you exhale.
In this way and others, we tap into our power.
Let's tap into our strength.

We connect to our higher essence
so that the outer influences of
the damaged
do not cause stress in our beautiful lives.

And we remember that we are here to grow and to heal

...and we thank those people who we have allowed to be our catalysts
(whether or not they are aware of the positivity in their contribution).

Sending so much Love, Light, and Gratitude to you ALL for your Love and inspiration.

~Shaun

How do I break the connection to "that person"?

2012-01-25T14:03:00.001-08:00

(archived from October 22, 2010)

A question was just posed and I thought I'd share the answer for anyone who may be dealing with something similar.

This question came from a consciously evolved, happily married woman who wanted to know how she could sever her mental and spiritual connection with her ex so that she could direct more of her love and energy to her husband. She was still having dreams and thoughts of her ex and was still aware of him whenever he experienced strong feelings.

The information given to me to share with her has three parts. These tools can be applied to anyone trying to release or resolve a connection to any other person for any reason, be they an ex, a boss, a deceased relative or whomever.

Step 1. Forgiveness: If there are any regrets or negative feelings about the person or the relationship, let them go. Any unforgiveness or guilt keeps the connection open. When we think of something like what we could have done to try to make a relationship better or things that we didn't like, we are reaffirming that relationship to The Universe and strengthening the connection with that person, creating a stronger link with them in the cosmic plasma that joins us all. If you find it difficult to forgive, simply set the intention to forgive that person, be patient in the knowledge that the forgiveness will come with time and move on to step 2.

Step 2. Reprogramming: Consciously release and replace memories of the person. When you think of the person you want to forget, replace the memory or thought with new thoughts of love toward your current partner or loved ones. This takes some practice, but the more you do it, the less you will have thoughts about what you don't want and what you didn't do and the more you will have thoughts that help you to find more joy in your current situation. Soon, your default thoughts will be about what you want more of in your life rather than... hey, what was that I used to think about all the time?

Step 3. Gratitude: Realize that the person you are trying to forget helped to make you who you are. Regardless of whether his or her intentions were good, or whether he or she did right by you, the things you learned about yourself through that relationship have brought you to where you are today. You grew because of that person, you discovered your strength because of that person, and more. So if you do allow every 10th or 20th thought into your mind about him or her, let it transition to a thought of gratitude for having allowed yourself the opportunity to learn and grow through the experience with them. And offer gratitude to that person for their contribution to your journey. If you find this difficult to do, please see Step 1 again.

In closing, I have to say that you will probably never be completely separated from the person. You will likely have random thoughts of them for the remainder of your life because interaction with them helped to make you who you are. However, the use of these tools will help you to have those thoughts more infrequently and allow you to more effectively direct your energies toward the loving beings in your current sphere.

Love and Light to You All,

~Shaun

Godgle OR The Answer to World Peace

2012-01-25T14:01:00.000-08:00

(archived from October 24, 2010)

I friggin loooove Godgle.

I have friends and clients who think that I "know stuff" and that I give good advice. But I totally cheat. I Godgle everything.

Huh? You don't know? Okay, I'll explain...

Godgle is what you use when you need an answer. To anything at all. "How do we achieve World Peace?" "What's she doing right now and why hasn't she called me?" "What outfit should I wear?" "How can I heal from abuse?" Any question you have, even if it's someone else's question, can be answered using Godgle.

Here's how it works.

You just sit really still. Then ask your question. Then you listen to your breath until you totally zone out (which is actually tapping in, connecting to the Divine wireless network, dissolving the perception of division between You and Your Creator). [Shout out to Erich Schiffman who has called it "logging on". Namaste.]

Then, up pops your answer. Except unlike a search engine, there's not a list of results from which to choose, there's only ONE crystal-clear answer.

Don't believe me? Try it. I dare you.

Godgle is almost better than Google...

Hey, just kidding. Of course Godgle is TOTALLY better than Google. How did you think they came up with that kick-ass algorithm they use?

And hey, if your connection to the network keeps dropping or there's too much interference on your line, you can use my connection anytime. Just sms me your question. Wireless provider service charges may apply.

Love you guys,

~Shaun

Don't Struggle... Adjust!

2012-01-25T13:42:00.000-08:00

(archived from October 27, 2010)

I have come to realize in life that we humans believe that we must struggle to achieve something ("no pain, no gain", etc.) but this is not true!!

Pain and discomfort are results of our resistance to evolve, resistance to change.

So I have learned that when I find my situation evolving into an uncomfortable one, I ask My Higher Power how I may adjust in order to rejoin the flow.

The only reason our situation ever gets difficult is because it is TIME TO SHIFT. Time to adjust.

If we never faced adversity, we would remain stagnant. But when adversity comes, the test is: how fast can I adjust to embrace my new reality? The answer is directly proportionate to how much joy I will experience in life.

The most unhappy people I know are also the most stubborn. The most joyful souls in my world are the ones who smile (even through tears) and walk faithfully into change...

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Lessons from Heart Rehab

2012-01-25T13:38:00.000-08:00

(archived from November 7, 2010)

It is never easy when someone cares enough to show us ourselves.

A lot of strength, grace, trust and patience are then required to move through the rough reality into self-acceptance. Much more of the same is required to utilize what has been revealed as the catalyst to shift. But if I can do all of that, I will be farther along on the path to becoming the person that I have always wanted to be.

I was reminded of so much this weekend:

1. I must always trust what I know to be true, no matter who is challenging it.

2. I am extremely fortunate to have people in my life who can see me clearly and who can so honestly and perfectly communicate to me what they see.

3. I finally have people in my life that I can be real, open and honest with.

4. If someone challenges me to judge others, rather than jumping onto the judgement bandwagon, I must be strong enough to challenge them to look inward and do the same myself.

5. If I do feel that I have a valid judgement about someone, it always stems from a judgement that I have about myself.

6. If I do feel that I have a valid judgement about someone, then the best person to discuss it with is that person, as soon as possible.

I am overwhelmingly grateful for these powerful, life-changing lessons.

I offer lots of Love and Gratitude to all of my Teachers and to anyone who sacrificed any moments of joy or peace to teach all of this to me.

"You have to feel it to heal it." -Saul David Raye

~Shaun