Shaun's Holistic Living Notes

written by my GodSister Cynthia Drawbond and me. Genuine Forgiveness Do you have an emotional wound that has never healed? Maybe someone wronged you or a loved one years ago, and the injury remains. From time to time, similar situations bring the painful emotions right back to the surface. Close friends and family members may have lost patience with your inability to move on. You, too, wonder how much longer the suffering will last. My friend, freedom from hurt and anger comes only through complete forgiveness. But perhaps you have resisted taking that action because of some common misunderstandings about what forgiveness means. Clearing Up Some Confusion One of the stumbling blocks to actually forgiving others is the wrong information that has entered our theology. The first concept we need to clear up is this: Is justifying, understanding, or explaining away someone’s behavior the same as forgiving him? Perhaps you can understand that your “brother” was under a lot of stress...

(archived from  October 22, 2010) A question was just posed and I thought I'd share the answer for anyone who may be dealing with something similar. This question came from a consciously evolved, happily married woman who wanted to know how she could sever her mental and spiritual connection with her ex so that she could direct more of her love and energy to her husband. She was still having dreams and thoughts of her ex and was still aware of him whenever he experienced strong feelings. The information given to me to share with her has three parts. These tools can be applied to anyone trying to release or resolve a connection to any other person for any reason, be they an ex, a boss, a deceased relative or whomever. Step 1. Forgiveness: If there are any regrets or negative feelings about the person or the relationship, let them go. Any unforgiveness or guilt keeps the connection open. When we think of something like what we could have done to try to make a relations...