Shaun's Holistic Living Notes

“ Having a partner who triggers you is a gift. The greater gift is having that same partner hold you and support you in expressing, healing and resolving that emotion which arose from your interaction with them. That is when evolution feels wonderful. That is when we feel deeply connected to our partners and to ourselves. ”  ~ Shaun Blair All relationships have two purposes: creation and evolution . Both creation and evolution bond us in deeper connection with ourselves, with one another and with all of existence. When we are winning at these two purposes then we and all of our relationships thrive. The purpose of co-creation is to generate positive emotions . There are countless ways of co-creating. Two or more people can come together to co-create experiences of laughter and conversation. We can create new awareness by co-creating a discussion of engaging topics. This is often referred to as “learning” or “having stimulating...

(archived from Sunday August 23, 2009) What are you holding on to? WHO are you holding on to? Why?  Are you holding on out of a sense of obligation? guilt? fear ? I, right now, choose to  continue  to release that which no longer serves me. As you know, I set an intention to do this quite a while ago and I must say that I have found much success in the accomplishment. But as I move forward, I realize that this is not a "garage sale" type of event, but rather a quarterly trip to my local Goodwill Donation Center. Yes, this  releasing  is a  process . A cycle. Hmmm.... who knew? I have accumulated 34 years of  stuff . And at some point or another, all of it served me. If it did not, I never would have acquired it. And as my stuff contributed to my perceived joy or pain or anything in between, I have benefited from it all. But as I evolve, so do my needs. And I no longer have space for that two drawer vertical file cabinet. Or any use for that (once...

(archived from  October 22, 2010) A question was just posed and I thought I'd share the answer for anyone who may be dealing with something similar. This question came from a consciously evolved, happily married woman who wanted to know how she could sever her mental and spiritual connection with her ex so that she could direct more of her love and energy to her husband. She was still having dreams and thoughts of her ex and was still aware of him whenever he experienced strong feelings. The information given to me to share with her has three parts. These tools can be applied to anyone trying to release or resolve a connection to any other person for any reason, be they an ex, a boss, a deceased relative or whomever. Step 1. Forgiveness: If there are any regrets or negative feelings about the person or the relationship, let them go. Any unforgiveness or guilt keeps the connection open. When we think of something like what we could have done to try to make a relations...

(archived from November 7, 2010) It is never easy when someone cares enough to show us ourselves. A lot of strength, grace, trust and patience are then required to move through the rough reality into self-acceptance. Much more of the same is required to utilize what has been revealed as the catalyst to shift. But if I can do all of that, I will be farther along on the path to becoming the person that I have always wanted to be. I was reminded of so much this weekend: 1. I must always trust what I know to be true, no matter who is challenging it. 2. I am extremely fortunate to have people in my life who can see me clearly and who can so honestly and perfectly communicate to me what they see. 3. I finally have people in my life that I can be real, open and honest with. 4. If someone challenges me to judge others, rather than jumping onto the judgement bandwagon, I must be strong enough to challenge them to look inward and do the same myself. 5. If I do feel that I ...